When Gabriela came up to me and told me that she really needed my advice with going natural. I was excited that this young girl (at this very transitional time in her life) wanted to embark on her own natural hair journey. So of course I had to reassure that this is something that she truly wants to do. I proceeded by asking her “are you sure, you want to go Natural?” She answered “Yes I’m sure, BUT I want to get rid of my kinks”. (Can you imagine the look on my face) I was so appalled with this statement that I just wanted to say “you’re not ready yet” but I knew that wouldn’t be the right approach for me to take. So I began to advice her, first allowing her to recognize that her statement contradicts itself. There’s no way a person with naturally grown curly hair is able to grow out a relaxer without learning that the curls/ naps/ kinks won’t be able to just disappear. The new growth after a relaxer is the beginning stage of going natural and that you have to learn to love, appreciate and understand your curls/ naps/ kinks. Once you’ve accepted this first stage of going natural then you’re better able to fight the urge of ever relaxing / dabbling with any other sort of chemicals again. So Gabriela if you’re reading this… please understand that you need to be prepared and ready to conquer step 1 of being natural.
As I continue to coach Gabriela and give her transitional tips, I will be constantly updating her journey, so stay tuned and feel free to leave your own tips and transitioning advice.
Gabriela Aguilera just completed her studies at Westview Centennial Secondary High School and is on her way to post-secondary education where she will be majoring in pre-community services and community work studies at George Brown College. While in high school Gabriela have been involved in many initiatives in her school. In the wider community, Gabriela has volunteered for councilor Anthony Perruzza, is associated with the Driftwood Youth Advisory council, volunteered with a marital arts program and is involved with a youth advisory group at Yorkwoods Public Library. Gabriela loves to write poetry and perform it. She also like to snowboard whenever she gets the opportunity to.
Her first relaxer was in grade 5 and her last relaxer was 2 months ago back in June. That’s over 7 years of chemically processed hair. Please assist Gabbi with going natural by adding any additional tips/ advice.
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